As you get older it’s normal to try to find your own identity and become more independent. This can be a tough time for young people. It often changes the relationship young people have with their parents.
Being ill can change your relationship further. Communicating with your parents might seem difficult right now. You maybe don’t discuss things as much with your parents anymore. You might try to hide your feelings from them so they don’t get upset. It’s normal to want to protect people you love. It can be hard to say what’s on your mind especially if you think it will upset your parents or make them worry. But remember it’s also normal for them to be upset. They may be feeling a lot of the same things you are.
Some young people feel closer to their parents and want them to be around a lot. This can make you feel secure and protected.
Others will get annoyed if their parents are fussing over them and don’t give them any space. You might feel they’re being too protective and you have no privacy. Talk to your parents about how this makes you feel. It might help to explain that you understand they are worried and trying to help but that you need some time and space of your own.
Talking about your feelings and worries with your parents can be a helpful way to deal with difficult situations. Try to be as open and honest as you can. This lets them know what your needs are. It also helps you to understand their feelings.
Giving consent - agreeing to having some treatment
If you're under the age of 16, you can give your consent to treatment but your parents will be asked to give their consent as well. Doctors will usually discuss your treatment with you and your parents. They’ll want to know what you think about the treatment plan. You might feel strongly about making your own decisions. It could help to talk to your parents and the doctors about sharing the decisions about treatment. You might be able to decide on some things you can deal with by yourself, but others might need to be discussed together.
